Not Showing but Still Glowing: Adoption Update

Hey everyone, I wanted to give you an update on our current adoption status. At the end of March we flew down and met with a new birth mom in Southern California. Let me just start by saying we were up for 21 hours, we had the first flight out that morning and the last flight that night….It was a great day but the longest ever!!! And we missed Lily terribly 🙁

It’s so crazy how things work out. I’m not sure why I would ever doubt that God has everything under control. Then he does this and I go “Oh ya you do know what your doing”.

We met the new birth mom through our friend Heather. Heather and her husband have adopted four amazing children. She walked with us, encouraged us, and advised us through the last adoption that didn’t end up working out. You can read more about that here My Gift of Suffering

A few days after our failed adoption Heather reached out to one of her birth moms to say hi and thank her for placing her child for adoption with them. Well, that birth mom had some news… she was pregnant and was not in a position to parent. She told Heather that she wanted to make an adoption plan. Heather waited a few days before telling us and then when she did we could not believe it. We were actually driving out of town for the weekend to Monterrey to get a little break.

When we flew down to meet her for the first time Heather came with us. We had lunch and I found a great pregnancy center that we had made an appointment with for a pregnancy test and ultrasound. Total side note: I am so thankful for all the years God had me working as a Counselor at the Sacramento Life Center. There were so many times I came home crying and confused and questioning several things:

1) How can all these other women and sometimes young girls get pregnant and I can’t?

2) Why in the (bleep) am I still working here? Sorry for the language 🙂

Hindsight is 20/20 right. I had no idea what God was preparing Matt and I for. He was calling us to Adopt, to love when it’s really, really hard, to sacrifice and to give everything of ourselves to our future babies and their beautiful birth moms. Most importantly and the biggest lesson ever has been to trust Him. To give ourselves and our future to Him and to ask Him what He wants and how does He want to do it. All those years I worked with women in unplanned pregnancies He was working with me.

Ok, back to the day we met. We got to see the baby on the ultra sound. It was Matt’s first live ultra sound so he was very excited. I had to bite my lip to keep from wailing like a freak ha. I have seen ultra sounds before but I have never seen my baby’s ultrasound. We saw and heard the heart beat and a little arm moving so fast.

Before we left that day we were all on board. We liked her and she like us. She told us yes we are the baby’s parents. Now some of you may think we are crazy for sharing this story before the baby is here especially since our last adoption didn’t go as planned. Well you are right we are a little crazy hahaha but I am called to share the good, the bad and the ugly in hopes that it may help someone else on whatever journey they are on. But just because one thing didn’t work out how we hoped and prayed it would doesn’t mean that God didn’t have His hand all over it. We know whatever happens He is with us guiding and directing our every step.

Baby B is due in October and we are so excited and honored to be on this journey. Thanks for coming along with us. Love to you all.

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  1. Kristen cutberth
    May 4, 2017 / 2:35 pm

    Your transparency and vulnerability is so rare in this world. Thank you for being willing to share all of this. We love you guys, Very much!

    • May 5, 2017 / 6:08 pm

      Thank you so much Kristen. God has opened our hearts to sharing our story and I am so excited to see how he moves.
      Your support means so much!
      Love you right back 🙂

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